How to Communicate With a Significant Other

Communication can resolve many relationship troubles. Being a good communicator requires a nice balance of listening and knowing how to express your feelings. Here are few things you can do.

Instructions

Steps

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Step One

Be in the moment. If your significant other wants to talk, then talk. Stop whatever you are doing, or schedule a time when you can both focus on the conversation.

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Step Two

Be sincere with your words and intent. Speak honestly. Be affirmative and supportive. Respond without being critical of what your significant other has said. Be patient, kind, considerate and speak well of each other. Nothing hinders intimate communication more than harsh words. But don't lie to cover inconvenient truths.

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Step Three

Separate yourselves from the situation. Don't take things personally. Listen without interrupting. Let your significant other know that you understand what they have said.

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Step Four

Avoid jumping to conclusions. Ask questions when you don't understand something. Don't immediately fall into a defensive posture.

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Step Five

Do your best. Communication is an important part of a healthy relationship. Be honest and realize that slight miscommunications are acceptable. Remember that you are on the same team.

Tips & Warnings

• Stay calm. Anxiety and fear can affect our body language and tone while introducing tension into an already uncomfortable situation.
• Avoid a defensive posture. A feeling of defensiveness can lead to a preemptive strike of cutting remarks and wounding insults.